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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Nightfox on
Mon May 19 2025 10:25 pm
When I went on holidays, I would just send group e-mails. Ironically, it was someone else going on holiday that made me go on Facebook originally. They said they would post updates there, so I signed up for that reason. They didn't end up posting much anyway!
Some of my family used to send group emails. I don't think I've seen
them do that since maybe 2011 though. I don't think I even know most
of my family's email addresses. And it seems most people only use
email for signing up for web sites & services these days.
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Nightfox to Boraxman on
Sun May 18 2025 08:26 pm
It's not that there's no other way to do it.. I feel like Facebook provides a way for people to post an update once, and everyone following them can see it. You could just call people, but I feel like it could be a hassle to repeat your news to each person individually.
I've seen people also have group chats with their family these days too.. However, my family (and friends) don't do that.
I think people who still have meaningful social contact in the real
world has a blast when they get to talk to different groups of friends
and tell them about great news, even if it means they have to repeat
the news multiple times.
You know, telling news, igniting a conversations, then repeating the process with a different group of friends.
I don't think most people is extracting that sort of interaction from Social Media. You upload the photo, people clicks on "share" and "like" and make some inane comment (if any comment at all) and then moves to
the next interesting thing.
When I was on Social Media (during Covid), it just led to disagreements and arguments. Yes, I did message some people I had found that I hadn't gotten into
contact with since school, but that never really got anywhere.
It seems to me, that the younger generation do go out less. Socialise less. Have less real world interaction. I think this is evidence that Social Media probably doesn't bring people together.
... BoraxMan
Boraxman wrote to Nightfox <=-
When I went on holidays, I would just send group e-mails. Ironically,
it was someone else going on holiday that made me go on Facebook originally. They said they would post updates there, so I signed up
for that reason. They didn't end up posting much anyway!
phigan wrote to Nightfox <=-
At one time, while Facebook was gaining traction, ISPs still provided
you with 'web space' where you could post and share things like that. People just didn't want to learn how. It would still be a thing if
people used it.
Arelor wrote to Nightfox <=-
I think people who still have meaningful social contact in the real
world has a blast when they get to talk to different groups of friends
and tell them about great news, even if it means they have to repeat
the news multiple times.
Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Arelor on Tue May 20 2025 08:29 am
When I was on Social Media (during Covid), it just led to disagreements a arguments. Yes, I did message some people I had found that I hadn't gott into
contact with since school, but that never really got anywhere.
It seems to me, that the younger generation do go out less. Socialise le Have less real world interaction. I think this is evidence that Social Media probably doesn't bring people together.
... BoraxMan
one thing i've noticed about myself is i no longer enjoy going out to restaurants or just to places. if it's a restaurant, i do take out. i am n longer in a relationship nor looking. i prefer to be alone. Since covid i ha been in this type of pattern and it hasn't changed. not sure if i'm abnorma or if i've just decided that i dont have time for the other shit in life. i have had 2 common law wives that add up to over 20 years, so there's that. maybe i'm done with people.
The friends who started email lists because it was more efficient to talk to different groups of friends rang a bit hollow. If you need to make connecting with your friends "more efficient", you're missing the point of friendship.
Boraxman wrote to Nightfox <=-
The email inbox is now like the letterbox. Just a place to receive
spam and advertising.
Boraxman wrote to Nightfox <=-
The email inbox is now like the letterbox. Just a place to receive spam and advertising.
The bulk of my inbox is junk. We still use it to communicate at work,
but I tell the teachers, "if you want me to see it NOW, text me."
... Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?
It seems to me, that the younger generation do go out less. Socialise less. Have less real world interaction. I think this is evidence that Social Media probably doesn't bring people together.
Boraxman wrote to Nightfox <=-
The email inbox is now like the letterbox. Just a place to receive spam and advertising.
The bulk of my inbox is junk. We still use it to communicate at work,
but I tell the teachers, "if you want me to see it NOW, text me."
... Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?
My childrens schools will send multiple emails a week. Sometimes multiple a day, and each is the same. Its a message with a subject, and you have to click a link to go to a web page. The webpage has the first few lines or first paragraph, then you have to click "read more" to get the rremaining few lines.
Why they don't just sent the text in the email itself is beyond me. Utterly ridiculous.
though.
If you reach deep into serious studies about romantic relationships you find the trend is for romantic relationships to be tremendously unsatisfactory. There are a number of potential reasons they speculate as probable causes but what seems to be hard facts is people is not getting their expectations fulfilled and people does not want to put effort into the deal.
If we think this sample is relatable to friendships and family relationships, it gets things explained IMO.
Arelor wrote to Boraxman <=-Ar> relationships, it gets things explained IMO.
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Arelor on
Tue May 20 2025 08:29 am
It seems to me, that the younger generation do go out less. Socialise less. Have less real world interaction. I think this is evidence that Social Media probably doesn't bring people together.
You are prety much correct in that people does not socialize much
anymore. Every now and then some study pops out and shows loneliness statistics are up through the roof. I don't think Social Media in
itself is to blame here, though.
If you reach deep into serious studies about romantic relationships you find the trend is for romantic relationships to be tremendously unsatisfactory. There are a number of potential reasons they speculate
as probable causes but what seems to be hard facts is people is not getting their expectations fulfilled and people does not want to put effort into the deal.
If we think this sample is relatable to friendships and family
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to jimmylogan on Wed May 21 2025 11:04 pm
... Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?
My childrens schools will send multiple emails a week. Sometimes multiple a day, and each is the same. Its a message with a subject, and you have to click a link to go to a web page. The webpage has the first few lines or first paragraph, then you have to click "read more" to get the rremaining few lines.
Why they don't just sent the text in the email itself is beyond me. Utterly ridiculous.
is it because they are using some provider that does that for security?
my credit union does that.
not going out, staying at home was known in the 90s. I recall someone
talking of "cocooning" in the early 90s, where people were choosing to stay at home,
eat in, etc, instead of going out. So it was talked about back then, and
that was before the Internet became popular in households.
Is this trend towards unsatisfactory romantic relationships relatively
recent, or a longer term trend? I can see how it is true but I'm interested in when it started.
nature of social interaction is specially shallow. People goes out specifically for getting drunk with others and that is what friends are good for. I don't think you can have friends who get interested in your life projects or who you get to help with their life projects anymore.
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Arelor on
Thu May 22 2025 08:08 am
not going out, staying at home was known in the 90s. I recall someone
talking of "cocooning" in the early 90s, where people were choosing to stay at home,
eat in, etc, instead of going out. So it was talked about back then, and
that was before the Internet became popular in households.
Kids in the 90s I grew up with would play soccer all afternoon long
after homework. Usually they would play soccer all afternoon long
skipping homework altogether.
I think people in Spain still go out with outstanding frequency, but
the nature of social interaction is specially shallow. People goes out specifically for getting drunk with others and that is what friends are good for. I don't think you can have friends who get interested in your life projects or who you get to help with their life projects anymore.
Is this trend towards unsatisfactory romantic relationships relatively
recent, or a longer term trend? I can see how it is true but I'm interested in when it started.
It depends on how you define "recent". I think the first ones I read
were 5 to 10 years old at the most. I remember thinking a lot of the secondary issues pointed out in those studies seemed linked to Tinder
and Tinder-like dating applications.
and Tinder-like dating applications.
I've heard first had from people who had been in the dating scene a long, long time that these apps have indeed completely changed peoples expectations. They report exactly which this study said, that people aren't really looking for relationships. Its treated more like an online store where you can arrange a meal for the night or a one off visit.
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Arelor on Fri May 23 2025 08:00 am
and Tinder-like dating applications.
I've heard first had from people who had been in the dating scene a long, long time that these apps have indeed completely changed peoples expectations. They report exactly which this study said, that people aren't really looking for relationships. Its treated more like an online store where you can arrange a meal for the night or a one off visit.
most of the people on the dating sites are married and looking to
cheat. the single women are on the sugar daddy sites. sad times we
live in. ---
Nobody drives a car like it's owner.find the trend is for romantic relationships to be tremendously unsatisfactory. There are a number of potential reasons they speculate as probable causes but what seems to be hard facts is people is not getting their expectations fulfilled and people does not want to put effort into the deal.
i'm surprised men are still getting into relationships. they have too much to lose. must be the hormones.
Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: MRO to Arelor on Wed May 21 2025 07:07 pm
find the trend is for romantic relationships to be tremendously unsatisfactory. There are a number of potential reasons they speculate as probable causes but what seems to be hard facts is people is not getting their expectations fulfilled and people does not want to put effort into the deal.
Nobody drives a car like it's owner.
I have been very lucky. 40+ years of marriage to the same woman. I wouldn't
There is a very thin line between the sugar daddy/sugar baby set up
and prostitution. I would not object to them being treated as such.
Nightfox wrote to Arelor <=-
I don't think that's necessarily true.. For me personally, I'm not
really into drinking alcoholic beverages (I might have something with alcohol maybe once or twice in a year);
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to MRO on Fri May 23 2025 11:17 pm
There is a very thin line between the sugar daddy/sugar baby set up
and prostitution. I would not object to them being treated as such.
is there a thin line? this is escorting. looks like the same thing
Nobody drives a car like it's owner.
is that a masturbation joke?
is there a thin line? this is escorting. looks like the same thing
Probably wouldn't be considered prostition in a court of law, but that would just be a technical matter. For all intents and purposes, we know these women are selling their bodies for sex. Its just that there is a relationship component thinly painted on top.
NIGHTFOX wrote to PHIGAN <=-
Yeah, I used to use my web space at my ISP. I didn't use it for
sharing updates about myself though.. After I first started using the internet in 1995, I started learning how to make web pages and would
use my ISP web space to store my work and share that. I made some
basic web pages with misc. content I saw elsewhere online. I'd also sometimes use my web space to store files I wanted to share with other people.
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Arelor on Tue May 20 2025 08:29 am
If you reach deep into serious studies about romantic relationships you find the trend is for romantic relationships to be tremendously unsatisfactory. There are a number of potential reasons they speculate
as probable causes but what seems to be hard facts is people is not getting their expectations fulfilled and people does not want to put effort into the deal.
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to MRO on Sat May 24 2025 12:45 pm
is there a thin line? this is escorting. looks like the same thing
Probably wouldn't be considered prostition in a court of law, but that would just be a technical matter. For all intents and purposes, we know these women are selling their bodies for sex. Its just that there is a relationship component thinly painted on top.
well the one i found, you have to pay them to meet up.
i created a fake profile to see if i recognize any women in my area.
I use an old veteran's photo. i get a lot of offers.
I miss program such as Microsoft Frontpage. It was one of the favorite apps I used to make websites in the late 90s/early 00s.
Livejournal likely was the reason why I stopped making home made webpages.
Matthew Munson wrote to NIGHTFOX <=-
I miss program such as Microsoft Frontpage. It was one of the favorite apps I used to make websites in the late 90s/early 00s.
Livejournal likely was the reason why I stopped making home made
webpages.
I was reading articles that saying in the united kingdom virginity is increasing in their population. 1 in 8 people in the United Kingdom in their mid 20s never had sex.
Maybe people are scared of rejection.
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From a rational point of view I cannot justify chasing a woman when I
can be making money or expanding my harvesting area instead. And for people who is tight on resources it is not a matter of justification
but of hard impossibility - they cannot pay the bidding price.
From a rational point of view I cannot justify chasing a woman when I can be making money or expanding my harvesting area instead. And for people who is tight on resources it is not a matter of justification but of hard impossibility - they cannot pay the bidding price.
Work hard enough and you'll attrace members of the opposite sex with
your large, expansive tracts of land! No chasing required!
Arelor wrote to poindexter FORTRAN <=-
will spend more resources in them. For no other reason that if your
idea of fun is participating in scythe contests you must be a borying bloke with no personallity, of course.
Sounds like you're chasing the wrong women... I know a couple of
historical re-enactors who might be interested in a scythe contest...
Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: MRO to Boraxman on Mon May 19 2025 11:16 pm
Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Boraxman to Arelor on Tue May 20 2025 08:29 am
When I was on Social Media (during Covid), it just led to disagreement arguments. Yes, I did message some people I had found that I hadn't g into
contact with since school, but that never really got anywhere.
It seems to me, that the younger generation do go out less. Socialise Have less real world interaction. I think this is evidence that Socia Media probably doesn't bring people together.
... BoraxMan
one thing i've noticed about myself is i no longer enjoy going out to restaurants or just to places. if it's a restaurant, i do take out. i a longer in a relationship nor looking. i prefer to be alone. Since covid i been in this type of pattern and it hasn't changed. not sure if i'm abno or if i've just decided that i dont have time for the other shit in life. have had 2 common law wives that add up to over 20 years, so there's that maybe i'm done with people.
I both feel like I am over people, AND want to be around people more. My is is more that I don't enjoy the people I find myself around, moreso than just wanting to be alone. I'm alone enough...
Joy is being around good company, good food, good surrounds, but having all three at the same time is nigh on impossible now. I was at a housewarming a while ago, and the people there, who I didn't know well, turned out to be annoying Liberals. No, I don't want your politics! Can you not just be... normal?
I have friends on both sides and we all seem to get along until that one mouthy Liberal mind wants to stir the stink pot.
Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Jerry Woody to Boraxman on Mon Jul 21 2025 09:04 am
I have friends on both sides and we all seem to get along until that on mouthy Liberal mind wants to stir the stink pot.
People on both sides like to stir the pot.. It's not just liberals.
Nightfox
Re: Facebook & online stuffI am not sure I ever like drama. I like calm and peaceful myself. telnet://ricksbbs.synchro.net:23
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Re: Facebook & online stuff
By: Jerry Woody to Boraxman on Mon Jul 21 2025 09:04 am
I have friends on both sides and we all seem to get along until that mouthy Liberal mind wants to stir the stink pot.
People on both sides like to stir the pot.. It's not just liberals.
Nightfox
Everyone these days loves a little drama. :)
Jerry
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